There is a growing trend where some families are choosing not to have a funeral. Not to have a memorial, or celebration of life, or any other special time set aside to remember their loved one's life.
The reasons vary, but commonly this decision is based around finances or not feeling connected to the idea of a formal funeral.
Many are not aware that a funeral can be held just about anywhere. Think your backyard, the local pub, a beautiful park.
A funeral does not have to be officiated by a clergy member or be religious in nature. Your local Funeral Celebrant can write a personal and unique ceremony that can include elements of faith or be totally non-religious.
Funerals do not have to be large and formal. They can be small and intimate gatherings.
The options are endless.
But why is a funeral important? Why bother with a funeral?
Funerals help us to process what has happened. They help us to remember our loved one's life and celebrate all that they meant to us.
A funeral helps us to feel engaged and connected to a purposeful experience.
It is a final good-bye, and yet it welcomes all the memories that may have been forgotten.
It is often at the funeral where you learn even more about the person you loved so much, through the stories and kind words of others who were in your loved one's life.
The key is that your loved one's funeral should be meaningful to you and your family. It does not have to be the same as any other funeral you have attended in the past.
Whether it is a large gathering or small. Whether it is in your backyard or you rent a local hall.
Whether you call it a funeral or a celebration of life or something totally different, a meaningful time of remembrance will be a positive experience and leave a lasting impact.
Your loved one lived. They were loved, They were special.
Take time to remember.